Sarah Spruill- A Life of Love

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Sometimes I get so busy, I forget to be.

To enjoy the moment.

To savor the relationships.

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Then something happens that jerks me back to reality.

April 11th at 5:00 in the morning I got a phone call from the nursing home where my mother in law lives.  When they went in to take her vital signs, she was gone. She had passed away in her sleep.  One tear on her cheek.  A big smile on her face.

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The past couple of years have been difficult for her as her dementia worsened.  I’ve written before about the nightmare of moving her out of her apartment of  twenty years and finding placement for her, but once she settled into her new home, her true nature came out.

She loved her family.  “You’re family and I love you with all my heart, ” she told all of us over and over.

She thought every other resident in the nursing home was a family member and she spent her time caring for them.

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Pushing them around in their wheelchairs.

Helping them find their lost shoe or purse.

Lamenting  over the difficulties of life.

She thought her roommate, Grace, with the deep gravelly voice was her nephew, Tim.  On each visit she told me he had been sick and he had just returned from the hospital.  I didn’t argue.

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Whenever her sister Shelby visited from out of town, she urged to her to stay and spend the night.  “There’s plenty of beds here,” she’d say.

Sarah and Hayley

She loved to socialize.  She had friends everywhere.  Even when she barely knew who I was she’d always greet me with, “I’m so glad you came to see me.”   She always thanked me for coming when I left.

Sarah and Laura

In the end, she just faded away.  Less mobile.  Less talkative. I’d ask her what she was thinking and she’d look up startled. “I don’t know” she’d say.

In her last phone conversation with her sister, she told Shelby, “I got to go, Alton’s coming to get her.”  We didn’t realize that she was right.

Sarah Frances Spruill.

Mother in Love.

You were loved.

 

 

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  • Kathy
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    What a wonderful and touching tribute for a special lady and a special relationship. Her attitude reminds me of how easily we miss the small special things that somehow get tangled in the everyday trivia.
    I love that you called her, “mother-in-love” for you both shared someone you both loved and because of that you were able to bond.
    So sorry for your loss, friend, but it sounds as though you were both blessed to be in one another’s life.

  • Corinne Meharg
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    hi Lynn,
    Surprised that I didn’t know your story. And somewhat surprised that your mother-in-love passed away last August and you can talk about it now. I can identify with you in 2 different ways. I lost my Mother 7 years ago to Alzheimer’s. She had spent 11 years living in assisted/nursing home care. She left in microscopic slices on a daily basis. It think it was brutal, but we dealt with it. So I understand it. Lost my Mother in Law last year to colon cancer and that was equally brutal in a short, sharp way. It is always hard to lose people you love regardless of the amount of time you have before they go. So sending you love and understanding and hugs to know you’re not alone and you’ll get through.

  • Robin Goodfellow
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    So beautifully written…so wise. Thank you for your insights, and your great tribute to this woman.

  • Belinda Leach
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    What wonderful and caring words for a special person. So very sorry for you loss.

  • Lynne
    Reply

    Thanks so much everyone for the caring words. They really mean a lot.

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