Having a confidence breakdown?

 In Coaching, Goal Setting, mindset, personal growth, stress, success

“Your thoughts are incredibly powerful. Choose yours wisely.”  Joe Dispenza

I recently had a confidence breakdown.  It wasn’t just low confidence, it was more like negative confidence.  All the old brain voices spoke loud and clear:

Who do you think you are to imagine you could..?

Everyone else does it better than you.

Everyone else is more successful than you.  

Maybe it’s time to throw in the towel and quit trying.  

Anything like that ever happen to you?  

Maybe it was confidence in your ability to have a successful business.  

Maybe it was confidence in your parenting skills or losing weight.  

We all have our Achilles heel.   Because everyone has those days eventually.  

What brings on a low confidence day?  

For me it was getting out of my routine which is designed to create a positive mindset and consequently a productive day.  Instead of following my usual morning routine of meditation, stretching and energy work coupled with positive reading and prayer, I had several mornings of early appointments that I allowed to break the routine.  That meant ultimately that I didn’t allow time to create a positive mindset but let my thoughts follow their own old paths. Much like a toddler let lose without supervision they got into things that didn’t serve me.

How can you tackle a low confidence day?

Begin with your mind:  so often we think that feelings, emotions just descend upon us from nowhere.  In actuality, we can always trace them back to our thoughts and especially stories that we tell ourselves.  The mind is a great storyteller.  And once it comes up with a story, it loves to tell it over and over.  It actually creates neural pathways in the brain that make it easier to repeat the same story than to change it to a new story.  

Maybe your story is that you’ve never had any confidence-its just the way you are.  Or maybe your story is that you’ve never been able to succeed at anything.  Maybe your story is that you’ve always been disorganized. You get the idea.  The trouble is that our brain doesn’t think of these as stories. Our brain treats them as fact or reality and it creates emotions to match. 

Create a different story and review it regularly:  Is it possible to overcome these messages?  The answer is yes but it’s probably not in the way that you might think.  It’s not just positive thinking that makes the difference.  It’s changing the message along with visualizing the positive result. Just as athletes spend time visualizing winning the race, it’s important for us to set our goals and regularly imagine ourselves successfully completing the task.

Act as if:  Stop waiting for the emotion to disappear.  Instead, act as if you already felt confident, successful or healthy and fit.  The behavior will help correct the false message in your brain, which will create the new and positive feeling.  The end result? You will want to continue practicing the same behavior because it will now be obvious that it gets results.  

Develop a support system:  It’s hard to change old stories on our own.  They are literally wired into our system.  I have a mindset coach that I regularly consult with.  I also have friends on speed dial who help get me back to reality when I have a confidence breakdown.  You need resources that you can count on too.  

Do you have a dream career or business that you’ve been wanting to explore?  Ready to step out of your comfort zone and gain some clarity on what is possible?  Let’s chat and plan your amazing future together… Grab your time for a free clarity coaching call here: Coaching clarity call  

Erin Shaw

Erin Shaw

Wow! Lynne’s expertise in personality styles, mindset and priority management is a powerful combination.  The interactive and personalized format was engaging and gave me tools I can use and actions I can take right away. I am able to more clearly articulate what my business is (What do you do?) and who it serves (Who is your ideal client?), and I have come away with a system for building my business (How do I do it?)



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