What Are You Afraid of?
A year ago I consulted with an aspiring author.
We originally met at an author event where she asked the question, “How would you go about getting a children’s book published? I’ve written a story and I’m not sure what to do next.” Several years ago that could have been me asking the exact same question. I gave her my card and offered to share my journey with her. A few months later we were sitting at my kitchen table and I was giving her lots of information on how to get started. I love coaching aspiring authors because I’ve been there myself and I truly did not know where to start or who to ask for advice.
Where is Trish today? Today she is a published author selling her book.
What Are You Afraid Of?
“I think I need to get over my fears,” she said at one point. “I think I’m afraid of success.” Our fears often define us and keep us from moving forward don’t they? I too have been plagued with fears.
- What if I fail?
- What if no one wants my books?
- What if I’m fooling myself and I’m not really any good at writing?
- What if I make the wrong decision?
- What if I work and work at this and nothing happens?
- What if I have a book signing party and NO ONE comes?
Trust me, my brain works overtime on the ways I could fail.
Are You Asking the Right Questions?
Maybe I’m not asking the right questions though. Maybe I should be asking questions like:
What are the possibilities ahead?
How can I dream bigger? Create more? Serve others more?
Trish is right. Sometimes it is not a fear of failure but a fear of success that paralyzes us.
Just as I coach other women who are dream achievers, I also have a business coach, Christine Kane, who urges me to overcome my fears and move myself forward in my business.
We all experience fear as we anticipate the future ahead. We all need someone to both support and challenge us. Who does that for you?
The Number One Regret of the Dying
In a book entitled, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, an Australian nurse, Bonnie Ware, who spent years caring for the terminally ill writes that the number one regret is this: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Does that hit home for you? It did for me.
I still feel afraid everyday that the latest idea or venture won’t turn turn out.
I worry that someone will point out something that was wrong.
I worry that it will all fall flat.
It was only after Trish’s comment that I started counting up what I have accomplished toward my dream of publishing a book and sustaining myself as a writer, speaker and coach. Two websites, two ongoing blogs, seven books, regularly speaking and selling books at events, a coaching business where I help other women attain their dreams… isn’t it funny how our fears get in the way of acknowledging our accomplishments?
The Key to Overcoming Fear
Helen Keller said, “Feel the fear, do it anyway.” As I talked with Trish a year ago, I encouraged her to recognize her fears and do it anyway. She has and I’m so proud of her accomplishment.
That has been the key to anything I’ve accomplished as well. One step, sometimes one very small step at a time, I’ve built it.
Not because I was confident and courageous. I just did it anyway.
So can you.
What about you? Are you living a life true to yourself, or the life others expect of you?The Self-Publishing Guide by Lynne Watts is a comprehensive tool for anyone who is considering the self-publishing world. Due to her experience as a self-published writer, she has created a system that addresses the whole process. Highly recommend this Self-Publishing Guide. Trish Greenlee,
Want some help to write your story and publish it? I offer a coaching program designed for aspiring writers who are just getting started. You can learn all about it here: http://lynnewatts.com/whats-your-story/
Writing your book is only the beginning! Lynne Watts’ Self Publishing Guide offers an excellent and comprehensive guide for the self-publishing process. She explains what you need to consider and implement before your book goes to print. ~Erin K. Casey, author of the Zany Zia’s Hats to Where adventure series