Are you an eagle or a chicken?
Three Keys to Living Your Best Story
Here is a parable from priest and therapist Anthony de Mello on the stories we tell ourselves:
“A man found an eagle’s egg and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The eaglet hatched with the brood of chickens and grew up with them.
All his life the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he would thrash his wings and fly a few feet into the air.
Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among the powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat of its strong golden wings.
The old eagle looked up in awe. “Who’s that?” he asked.
“That’s the eagle, the king of the birds,” said his neighbor. “He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth—we’re chickens.”
So the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that’s what he thought he was.”
Are you living your biggest story?
Are you living your life with enthusiasm?
Are you creating your own dance or just following the routine??
Here’s a preschooler who could teach us all a lesson about how to live with gusto!
What Are Your Excuses?
If only I had more confidence… If only I had more money.. If only I weren’t so young… If only I weren’t so old… Sound familiar? Of course, I know that none of us can engineer all the circumstances of our lives. We don’t choose the families or the environment that we are born into. We certainly don’t have control over other’s choices. However, we can determine our reaction to the circumstances of our lives.
Here are three life lessons that steer my course and that I believe will help you live your bigger life story too.
Live Life on Purpose
Are you letting life happen to you rather than making it happen? This has been the greatest lesson I’ve learned. My early years were spent playing the waiting game and wondering if I’d be able to accomplish my dreams. I reacted to life rather than created my life. I gave away my power to anyone and everyone. Instead of a list of goals, I had a wish list and no action plan to make those dreams come true. I was incredibly busy but without any clear direction. Living intentionally has changed my focus and my life.
Look for the Opportunity in Everything
Whenever you face adversity do you look for the opportunity in the middle of it? Of course my life, like yours, has events and relationships that are discouraging and disappointing. Sometimes I can make changes that improve the situation. Sometimes I can’t. But I can say that if I look hard enough there is always an opportunity in the midst of it all. Can you change your perspective? Have you learned something that you can share with someone else who is going through a similar concern. Can you turn your mess into a message?
Do Something New Everyday
We are all creatures of routine and habit. Even our brain seeks the path of least resistance and familiar patterns. It takes real effort to move out of our comfort zone and take risks. Being open to learning from new experiences means being open to change. This is true in simple things as well as in the bigger events in our lives. Rather than sticking to the tried and true in order to avoid failure, instead look for a new path and new experiences. Consider it all research and development.
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